Friday, February 13, 2009

Friday the 13th and Valentine's Day...and last minute give away

Which to celebrate...

Since I am a romance author, I figure I should at least give a nod to hearts and roses. So, I wandered around the web and found a couple of games. This one is a test of dating through the ages. I took it twice--first time my best decade was the fifties, the second it was the twenties. Completely missing any decade I was actually alive. This one is a matching game...matching up famous lovers. My first time was one minute 21 seconds. My second was 41 seconds...


Now to tie Friday the 13th to Valentine's day. What about some "love" superstitions? As I told you all last week, I'm from southern Missouri--the Ozarks, actually. There are some fun old superstitions about love and marriage from the Ozarks. I actually wrote a short story a while back centered around one. It's called a dumb supper. It's kind of a bit of witchcraft if you ask me--although no one would have admitted that. Witches were not looked on kindly in the Ozarks during the time this would have been in practice. In the version I've heard (there is more than one) girls walked around a table backwards, (setting or unsetting it one piece at a time as they went) without saying a word. When there was nothing left but their plate, they looked down and their "true love's" image would be reflected back at them.

I'm thinking there was a lot of room for interpretation during this...

I never participated in a dumb supper, but I did do some of the standard find-your-true-love games--twisting the stem off an apple while saying the alphabet, plucking the petals from a daisy, and allowing a wiser friend (of ten or so) to use her self-constructed paper cootie catcher to predict if I would die alone with twenty cats or married with twelve kids. (Neither, praise the gods, has happened.)

What about you? What love superstitions have you practiced or heard of being practiced?


ETA: Due to my horrible handwriting, I totally messed up signing my book Love is All Around for Estella who chose it as her prize for last week. So, I'm giving that copy away today. Yes, it is damaged goods. It is signed, but there is also this big green ink blob on the title page where I wrote her name in a way-too-big pen. I nicely marked through that leaving said big green blob. So, line up--I know you all want this baby. :D I'll announce the winner in next week's post. And thank you for taking it off my hands. I never know what to do with the books I screw up like this!

24 comments:

azteclady said...

*giggling* oh dear me... "damaged goods"?

I'm all for damaged goods :wink:

Love superstitions? Well, there are plenty my family follows religiously, from "the bride must never keep her wedding gown in the house or unhappiness will sure come" to "never knit a sweater for the one you love"--but I'm a tad too cynical for all of them myself.

sarabelle said...

YOu crack me up azteclady, naughty thoughts running through the head at damaged goods. :)

I played along with the wedding superstition of the groom not seeing the dress before the wedding, even though I lived with my husband before we were married, I felt we needed to uphold some of the tradition. I guess it was the little girl in me who planned her wedding from the age of 5.

Jess Granger said...

I ran across an interesting one in Germany. A coworker of mine admitted that she'd almost reached a "certain age." I think it was 28 where if she wasn't married, tradition was, she had to spend her entire birthday with a broom sweeping the steps of the town hall until someone pitied her and asked her out.

That's harsh.

Jess

Kristen Painter said...

You mean like if your second toe is longer than your big toe, you'll nag your husband? Other than that, I got nothing.

Ann Aguirre said...

Lori, this is an awesome post.

I can think of a couple:

1) if you sleep with a slice of wedding cake under your pillow, you'll dream of your future husband.

2) if you twist the the stem of an apple while saying the alphabet, the letter where it breaks starts the man's name you'll marry. You're to then close your eyes, and the first name that pops into your head... well, that's him.

Zed-Aitch said...

Why'd they call it "dumb supper"?

As for superstitions, there's the oiuja board one where you ask the spirit who your true love will be. I haven't met "Krzlyx" yet, but I'm sure he'll be popping up soon...

Zita

Lori Devoti said...

Zita, the "dumb" part came from not being able to talk. The entire thing was done in complete silence.
Kristen, I knew that big toe thing was supposed to mean something, but I hadn't heard this one.
Also, new to me is Azteclady's never knit a sweater...WHO do you knit them for then? Hmm....
I have heard Ann's wedding cake one. Before baggies that must have been messy! ;-)

Lori Devoti said...

Oh, but Jess definitely gets my vote for most unusual superstition! What think the rest of you?

donnas said...

I dont think I have heard about love superstitions before unless you count wedding traditions. But they sound like fun reading. Growin up in Missouri I want to read your short story about the dumb supper. Is it available? If so where can it be found?

Ann Aguirre said...

Zita, it sounds like your man has a long way to go, being as he's an alien and all.

theprogrammerwholovedme said...

So now I know why I nag my husband. Thanks, Kristen.

Totally drawing a blank on any love superstitions...I feel like my education is lacking. However, I have the best peach cobbler recipe that is supposedly from the Ozarks. When I make it my husband always tells me he loves me *grin*.

Lori Devoti said...

Donnas, I really need to do something about that short story. I sold it a long time ago (as in years) to an e-press who has yet to do anything with it. I really need to do the whole reversion of rights thing.
Putting on list...

Angie Fox said...

Yes, I'd love to read that Dumb Supper story. The Ozarks is just a few hours south of here. Our parents used to take us down there for vacations.

Too funny on the German superstition, Jess. I would have been sweeping a lot of steps for a lot of years.

Raven99 said...
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Raven99 said...

The only love superstition that I remember practicing is on my wedding day when I had "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" for good luck.

A few others that I have heard of are:
1) If a cat sneezes on your wedding day, you will have a happy marriage.
2) If a female finds a four-leaf clover and puts it in her right shoe, the next single man that she meets will be her husband.

macbeaner said...

I've never really heard of love superstitions. Super Bowl superstitions? yes. lol.

And as for damaged goods-I'm not proud. A signature is a signature! :)

Jess Granger said...

The funny thing is my friend was contemplating doing it. She wanted to go out, and she hadn't met anyone in a while. I don't think she went through with it. I don't know if I would have the guts.

Jess

Blodeuedd said...

Hm, superstitions, can't say I know many other than the groom shouldn't see the bride, but that mostly comes from me watching way too much American shows.

Oh wait, oh yes pick 7 flowers on Midsummer, put them under your pillow and you will dream of your future husband.
2. Take a broom and move backwards in your room (naked) on Midsummer or was it when the moon is full.. and you will dream about your true love.
I remember more now :)

Casey said...

Since I'm a knitter, I can explain the sweater superstition...you're never supposed to knit a sweater for a man unless he's already given you an engagement ring. (Or obviously, if you're already married.) The superstition says that if you do, you'll break up. And I actually just read a "study" that claims it's true: women who knit something that takes as much time as a sweater are showing just how committed they are to the relationship. And that often scares the guys away. That's why they end up breaking up! PS--if you are a knitter and you have a boyfriend, make him a scarf or a pair of socks. Nice and safe!

azteclady said...

Casey, that's exactly it!

And Lori, you knit sweaters for siblings, children, parents, friends... until after the vows, then you can knit for him/her to your heart's content!

Angie Fox said...

When I was single, my girlfriends and I had the same theory going about Jimmy Buffett concerts. Whenever we'd ask a guy to Jimmy Buffett, we'd inevitably break up a week or so before the concert and all be scrambling for new dates/friends/anyone to take the tickets. Every. Single. Year. We finally turned Buffett concerts into friends-only events. It was much safer that way.

Just another SAHM said...

Love the quizes, but I can't think of any superstitions we have regarding love. I didn't even follow the old standard 'something borrowed, something blue' when I got married...of course, I was in Vegas... lol

As far as the book - ha, that is SO something I could see myself doing. I have terrible handwriting & type/print everything - even notes to my daughter's teacher! ;)

MarthaE said...

Can't think of any Love superstitions at this house! But a Blob on a book I'd like to read wouldn't bother me any.:)

Lori Devoti said...

Angie, did you ever think that MAYBE it was the fact you were asking them to Jimmy Buffet??? Makes me flash back to being trapped in a car with a guy who worshiped Neil Diamond.
The torture... ;-D
And, yes, the sweater thing makes perfect sense.
I broke up with a guy once (or didn't go on a second date with him) because he brought me a rose. He felt way too eager. Those warning, warning Will Robinson signs started flashing in my brain...