Thursday, February 16, 2012

True Friendship


As I said last week, things have been a little crazy. Right now I have a lot of irons in the fire, both professionally and personally, and I’ve been waiting to see how they all pan out. Well, three of those things came to a bit of resolution this week—one turned out as I’d hoped it would and the other two didn’t. (I found this all out on the same day, btw.) Is it the end of the world because they didn’t? No. I knew deep down that the two which didn’t work out were simply a couple of speed bumps in my life and that I just have to deal with it. But at 2 o’clock on Tuesday—(Valentine’s Day, of course!)—I wasn’t quite looking at it that way. I felt old, unloved, unwanted, discouraged, and just generally ticked at the Universe for messing with all my well laid plans. (Yeah, right “of mice and men…” and all that!) I was in the throes of the biggest pity party I’d had in a long time.

Enter my friend, Cindy. After telling her why I was upset, she could have simply said “sorry to hear about it” and changed the subject in an attempt to avoid all the negativity I was spewing that day, but she didn’t. She listened patiently to my rant…laughed a little about the unloved/unwanted part…then proceeded to point a few things out. The news could’ve been a lot worse…the thing that I needed most to work out, did…and the other two things aren’t insurmountable. They might require me to make some changes in my life, but there are others who are facing far worse situations.

Yesterday, when I saw the above picture on my Facebook page, I immediately thought of Cindy. Would she help me whop someone if the need arose? Well, neither one of us are prone to use a baseball bat to solve a situation so I doubt I’d ever need her assistance. However, I do know that no matter what happens she has my back, especially when I’m my own worst enemy. She had pulled me out of my pity party and helped me see that, in the end, I’m really lucky. I have my family and friends like her. I have a warm place to live, food on my table, and with my retirement, the freedom to do what I want as long as I can afford it. Life may not be perfect, but then again, whose is? All I can do is give it my best shot and let the chips fall where they may. By the time our conversation was finished, I was ready to pick myself up, dust myself off, and come up with Plan B. (A much more valuable thing than an offer to help cream someone with a bat! *g*)

So here’s to Cindy and all the women out there who know how to be a true friend! I hope each and every one of you has someone like her in your lives! (With or without the bat!)

That’s it for this week—have a good one!

Best,
Shirley

P.S.
The giveaway last week—everyone who posted is a winner!! I’ve already heard from Zita, Barbara, Tayia, and Chris, but SandyG265, Alainala, and Mish—shoot me an email with your mailing address (Shirley@shirleydamsgaard.com) and I’ll get your signed advanced reading copies in the mail!

3 comments:

alainala said...

ohh wow thank you! email sent!

and i love best friends.. whether the give me a smack in the head if i need it or help me plot revenge...

Tayia said...

Eeep! When I read my name I had to drag my husband over and show him. I even did a sing-songy voice and said nee-ner-nee-ner! He told me to lay off the coffee. :(

BW said...

I posted too but I didn't see my name your list but I sent you an email with my info.